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Monday, March 26, 2012

Disappointed and disillusioned

Remember this post? Eppur si muove
I wrote this way back in September hoping against hope it would somehow make a difference. Alas it was as I feared: two days ago, on Sunday the vote of the (scarce) majority 55% voted against the new Family law that would enable among other things that gay people could adopt and have children.
As a lawyer, as a liberal as as someone who's only starting out in life, hoping to make a it a happy one in a culturaly enriched environment  it makes me sad beyond words to see that I'm living in a claustrophobic, homophobic society that shuns progress and hides behind a cloak of hypocrisy.

Feeling rather sad today....

15 comments:

  1. Don't be sad dear friend.

    These things take time but eventually it will happen.
    It has taken most of my lifetime to bring about these changes in the UK,and we are still fighting over the issue!

    Miss your posts,hope you are enjoying your new life. Ida

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    1. I miss my old life too :-) Things were a lot simpler on a certain level but I have to admit the experience of the past 6 months has been invaluable. As my schedule clears up a bit in the following weeks, I plan on "coming out" on the blog and talk about it in more detail.
      In the mean time, thank you so so very much for stopping by, I've missed posting and reading comments from everyone.

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  2. Ana, I am still confused about the subject, and feeling like I did earlier. I think that I am old-fashioned in many ways. I feel worried about the children, just like I feel worried about how the children, who´s parents have divorced, remarried and then live in a family where there are your children, his/her children from a previous relationship ( relationships ), and then the new children, all spending time here and over there. How does it feel to be a child in a home with so many different people? How are the parents able to share equal quantity/quality time for everyone?

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    1. Mette, I agree with that, absolutely! I think our society is entirely too liberal and selfcentered and the high rate of divorce definitely reflects that :-(
      The reason why I'm sad is because the entire debate around the new codex was centered around gay people having children when in fact it's so much more than that, this new codex was written with one sole purpose: to protect the children, to put them first. I'm also disguisted with the entire method in which the public was being informed about it, lots of negative propaganda, high fear factor, cheap tricks executed but the conservative party that makes my blood boil.

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  3. Hi!
    I went through your stages of depression not long ago, after having talking to my parents about migration in Austria. :-/

    In Austria a gay man was finally accepted as parish counselour, after heavy opposition coming from the church.
    It was the parish that wanted him as a counselor.

    So many small battles to fight.

    I hope you are feeling better today!

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    1. Paula so sorry for the late reply, I've been offline for a few days.
      Yes, the disappointment hit me hard, mainly because I naively expected Slovens were more mature, it only turns out that as a nation we are immature and petty and mean. It has taken me a few days to get over this and focus on the positive, the whole glass half full philosophy and that ;-)
      I wish you a very happy Easter :-D

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    2. outch, outch, I am not so sure about the Happy Easter: it turns out the priest is against the counselor and the parish supports him. The priest talks about sins that can not be tolerated. It's not over yet ...
      Sin, a word I can absolutely not relate to.

      I had the perfect Easter-chill-out (before another week at work starts), visiting a play by Elfriede Jelinek. How I love to visit the Akademietheater in Vienna!

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    3. I spent the Easter weekend with my parents and Mr. C, always a source of strength for me. Must remember to do it more often :-)

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    4. coffeeaddict,

      the gay-conselour issue is in its next round: the priest who refused to accept him, obviously had a mistress. He is roman-catholic, so speaking of sins ...
      In the end it all comes down to (mostly negative) projections.

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  4. Agree with Ida totally. Don't be sad....These things take time and it was 55% so quite close, but I understand, not close enough.
    Hope you had a good Easter Break...
    Sarah xx

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    1. Sarah, thanks for your sweet words :-)
      Now is the time to focus on the positive and 45% is a lot, like you said. We'll get there eventually.
      Happy Easter!

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  5. We miss you...don't let your worry about this destroy all your joy! Although, I admit it is hard when your country lets you down ( as mine did in giving our current Prime Minister a majority government) When you are ready, I will be so happy to read what you have to say! Happy late Easter - for us, it's all about the egg hunt...

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    1. Claire, I suppose my mood has been rather dark lately :-(
      I'm getting back to happy, juggling work and volunteer work leaves me with little time for blogging and that's the major reason why I've been so absent from the blogosphere. Unable to comment on posts from all you lovely people.
      A happy belated Easter to you too, I hope you found all the eggs :-D

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  6. Sigh. We have many of the same issues here. Next Sunday when we get married I'll be thinking of several of our gay friends attending who would like to marry in California but cannot do so.

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    1. I suppose all that's left is for me to believe that change will come. Because it has to.

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